Transitioning your little one from the crib into a big kid bed is a huge transition. As a parent who has been through this transition, and a sleep consultant who has helped many families through this transition as well, I understand the worries and uncertainties that can accompany it. I also understand how it can feel like such a milestone into “big kid” territory, that comes with so many mixed emotions!
It’s true, this CAN be a difficult transition…but fear not, I'm here to offer some tried-and-tested tips to make this transition as smooth as possible for both you and your child.
But first, let’s make sure they are ready! Timing is crucial when it comes to transitioning your toddler into their big kid bed. I always suggest kiddos be at least 2 years old before transitioning out of the crib, but it’s much easier if they are closer to 3-3.5 years old.
Some signs that your child is ready to transition to a toddler bed:
Consistently climbing out of their crib (even when it’s moved down).
Outgrowing their crib.
Over the age of 3.5 and expressing interest in a big kid bed.
Their sleep patterns are already solid.
Some reasons that should NOT qualify your child moving into a big kid bed:
Someone said they “should” be in a big kid bed by now.
You have another baby and need the crib for them.
Their sleep is already a mess and you’re thinking a big kid bed will fix it (spoiler alert- it will make it worse!)
Even if your toddler is showing signs of readiness, if they are under 2.5, I suggest waiting as long as possible to ensure your child is emotionally and developmentally ready for the change. When they are ready for the transition, don’t fret!
Here are some things you can do to make the transition to a toddler bed as smooth as possible:
1. Prepare the Room:
Before making the switch, take some time to prepare your child's room for the transition. Ensure that furniture is securely anchored to the wall, cords are out of reach, and any potential hazards are removed or properly secured. Place a railing or bumper on the side of the bed if you think they may roll out. Creating a safe environment will give you peace of mind as your child explores their new sleeping space.
2. Involve Your Child:
Make your child feel involved in the process by allowing them to pick out their new bedding or bed frame. This simple act can make them feel excited and more invested in the transition! Consider reading books together about the transition to a big kid bed to help ease any anxiety they may have about the change, and talk about it with excitement. Hype them up!
3. Set Clear Expectations & Boundaries:
Communication is key during this transition. Set clear expectations for your child about bedtime rules and routines, and be consistent in enforcing them. Let your child know what is expected of them when it comes to staying in bed and following bedtime routines. Even if they are protesting it, consistency will actually help to establish a sense of security and predictability for your child during this time of change.
4. Stick to Their Normal Routine:
Stick to a consistent bedtime routine to help your child feel secure and relaxed in their new sleeping environment. Whether it's reading a bedtime story, singing a lullaby, or dimming the lights to signal that it's time for sleep, sticking to the same bedtime routine they had before will help your child ease into the transition and signal that it's time to wind down for the night.
5. Stay Consistent:
Be prepared for some resistance or setbacks during the transition period. Stay patient and consistent with your approach, offering reassurance and encouragement along the way. Consistency is key to helping your child adjust to their new sleeping arrangement and establishing healthy sleep habits for the future.
What Happens if They Get Out of Bed?
It's not uncommon for children to test the boundaries of their new freedom by getting out of bed. Have a plan in place for how to respond to this behavior, whether it's using bedtime passes or an "ok to wake" clock to reinforce bedtime rules and boundaries. Remember to stay calm and consistent in your response, offering gentle guidance and encouragement as needed.
Whew, I know that was a lot! Transitioning to a toddler bed is a significant milestone in your child's development, but with the right preparation, communication, and consistency, it can be a smooth and successful transition for everyone involved. Set realistic expectations for both your child and yourself, and remember to give yourselves grace as you navigate this exciting new phase together. Before you know it, you'll all be sleeping soundly in your new bedtime routine.
Author:
Alexa Martinez, owner of Mama Matters Too, is a pediatric sleep consultant with a focus on mama’s mental health. If you’d like to learn more about what she does or get some help with your littles’ sleep, check out her website or listen to her podcast!